What is abuse?

Abuse is a violation of an individual's human and civil rights by any other person or persons or organisation. Abuse may consist of a single act or repeated acts. It may be physical, verbal or psychological, it may be an act of neglect or omission to act, or it may occur where a vulnerable person is persuaded to enter into a financial or sexual transaction to which he or she has not consented, or cannot consent.

Definitions of abuse:
Information about each type of abuse

* Verbal abuse.
* Physical abuse.
* Sexual abuse.
* Neglect.
* Psychological or emotional abuse.
* Financial abuse.
* Abuse of individual rights, including discriminatory and racial abuse.
* Domestic abuse.
* Elder abuse.
* Professional abuse.
* Institutional abuse.

"Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave? Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy? Is he extremely jealous and possessive? Does he switch from charm to anger without warning? Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments? Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you? Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship? Do you find yourself "walking on eggshells" and apologizing all the time? If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist -- a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you."

"What is misogyny? The word is unfamiliar to most people. It comes for the Greek words misein, meaning to hate, and gune, meaning women. Literally, misogyny means the hatred of women."
Misogynist Types: Have you met or been involved with Type I, II, III, or IV? Did they hide it for a while?
Type 1 Misogynist (Mild): No physical abuse of his partner. He uses indirect criticism; denies that he is abusive, protestations of love when confronted with his disrespectful behavior; extremely subtle, may use flattery to keep woman at his side. Uses logic to control situations. Outargues spouse, totally discounts woman's feelings and thoughts. He rarely loses his temper. He always looks as if he is in control, very reasonable. Out of touch with his own feelings.

Type II Misogynist: Includes Type I behaviors plus more overt verbal tactics such as teasing, bullying, belittling, namecalling, obvious criticism, unfavorable comparison of partner with other woman. Uses nonverbal tactics such as pouting, the "silent treatment," dirty looks to show displeasure. May demand special attention. May be jealous of wife's attention to children or other relatives. May use temper tantrums to get his own way. Increase in intensity and frequency of behaviors over Type I.
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Type III Misogynist:
Uses any of Type I and Type II behaviors plus the threat of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. More extreme in controlling social life, religious practices, finances, sexual interactions, and matters of daily living. Increase in intensity and frequency of behaviors over Types I and II.

Type IV Misogynist (Extreme):
Uses of any of Type I through type III behaviors plus physical and/or sexual abuse toward wife and possibly children. Level of intensity of abusive behavior is very high and poses a significant danger to the woman. Abusive style has become a deeply ingrained behavior. More extreme in controlling various areas of family life.

From: Christian Men Who Hate Women: Healing Hurting Relationships
Margaret J. Rinck